The Mentor Myth | A Cup of Jo


I’ve just a few wonderful mentors in my life, however I haven’t truly met any of them…

Once I began Cup of Jo in 2007, running a blog felt just like the Wild West. Since running a blog was nonetheless new, I didn’t have individuals in whose footsteps I may observe; my friends and I have been simply figuring issues out as we went. So, to assist floor myself, I made a listing on my pc’s desktop of people that I may contemplate mentors from afar, together with journal editor Pilar Guzmán, creator Anne Lamott, pressure of nature Michelle Obama, and neck-hater and all-around genius Nora Ephron.

Every time I felt misplaced or confused about subsequent steps, I’d suppose ‘what would Anne Lamott do?’ or ‘what would possibly Michelle Obama suppose?’ Typically I’d really feel disoriented as a result of different bloggers could be forging totally different paths — taking attractive day by day outfit pictures or doing superior magnificence tutorials — and I wasn’t good at that. Was I falling behind? Was I not succeeding? However I’d remind myself: Nora Ephron simply was herself and it labored out. I’ll hold shifting ahead.

I additionally take profession snippets from different individuals right here and there. For instance, in her 2018 magnificence uniform, Nora McInerny stated, “I need to make issues that anyone can level to and say, ‘It felt like that.’” That quote has lived on my desktop ever since! Whereas writing about issues like getting old and parenting, I’ve reminded myself of her phrases and so they’ve helped me open up.

Total, it could be wonderful to have bimonthly lunches with an older and wiser one that may information your profession, however for these of us who don’t have that, by no means concern! Secretly pinpoint individuals you respect and admire, notice their profession strikes and philosophies, and contemplate your self mentored.

I bear in mind an amazing paragraph in Mindy Kaling’s memoir Why Not Me? Her personal mentor Greg Daniels advises:

You are taking your mentoring the place you will discover it, even when it isn’t being supplied to you. Have you ever ever used your neighbor’s Wi-Fi when it wasn’t on a password? If in case you have the chance to watch somebody at work, you’re getting mentoring out of them even when they’re unaware or resistant. Make a listing of the individuals you suppose would make the best mentors and attempt to get shut sufficient to steal their Wi-Fi.

Mindy Kaling and Greg Daniels.

Ideas? Do you have got an in-real-life mentor? Or mentors from afar? I’d love to listen to…

P.S. The most effective profession recommendation, and 10 classes I’ve discovered in my profession.


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